Child Development

Fathers play an important role in child development. The National Practitioners Network for Fathers and Families in Washington D.C. publishes information that states "children with involved fathers do better in all areas of development. They grow up to do better in school, in their relationships with others and they are less likely to abuse drugs and alcohol."

This means, for your child's sake, you must be there. Not just when it is convenient for you, or not just when you and the child's mom are getting along, but for your child's whole life. It is more difficult to be there when your child is crabby, or sick and vomiting, or begging and whining. But remember: when your child is most unlovable is when he/she needs your love the most. Being an involved parent means being there to teach your child acceptable behavior so your child will grow up to be a productive member of society. A parent's love is for all time, not just the fun, easy times.

You should spend time with your child from birth onward. The library is full of books about child development, which will help you be prepared for the next stages in your child's life. Don't rely on someone else to tell you how your child should be developing. Read books, talk to other dads. Be a proactive dad not a reactive one. Your child will benefit from your expertise on child development.

When your child is a baby, talk to him, hold him, read to him, and massage his back and legs. Make eye contact with your baby whenever you can and soon you will be rewarded with smiles when you enter the room.

When your child is a toddler, make sure she is in a safe environment. Watch her as she explores her world and talk to her about the things she finds. A toddler finds grass, trees, bugs, water, and food, different textures of material and of course toys fascinating. Keep her safe but let her explore the world. Continue reading to your child on a regular basis.

When your child is a preschooler, he is ready to learn simple games and taking turns. You as the parent must remember it is difficult for your child to share and take turns. Offer much encouragement when your child does these things. Your child is noticing how others behave; make sure you are setting a good example. Make sure your child has a chance to interact with other children. Continue reading to your child and he will be ready to learn to read when he starts school.

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